Men find me intimidating
Don’t follow with a funnier story about your latest rental fiasco.
Knowing if you intimidate men can mean the difference between getting the guy that you want and being passed over for your friend. You’ve been told so for years by your friends, family and even strangers.
But men seem to be literally afraid to get close to you. If men are intimidated by you, they will often look at you but seldom approach.
Edwards is a university lecturer and practicing psychologist in New York City.
If there is one phrase I'm tired of men dropping, it's, “You're intimidating."Before I jump up on my soapbox and make myself even more "intimidating," let me write a disclaimer: This article is not intended for the woman you are too afraid to approach.
Specifically, men may find your style of relating to them restrictive, says research by Eleanor Maccoby, professor of psychology at Stanford University.
Guys may also flirt when they meet you but often neglect to ask you out on a date.When you are out on a date, a man may be intimidated if he suddenly becomes quiet early in the conversation.
They may be intimidated if they email a few times but then suddenly stop.I can't fix the mean girl who blows you off at the bar or the not-so-mean girl you just said has “resting bitch face (RBF).” (Also, I'm pretty sure my brain-on-fire-and-therefore-deep-in-thought face does not mean I'm a bitch, so please stop using “RBF").That is, unless you want women to just start calling you a resting assh*le (“RA” for short).If men are not approaching you, consider being more inviting when you see someone you like. When you are out on a date, make a point to lengthen interactions with him.An inviting, facilitative style helps achieve this.And when he tells you a funny story about moving to a new apartment, simply laugh.